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What to do?
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December 10, 2010, 10:48:32 PM »
What do you do when a friend, who doesn't know you very well,.. listens to a lie about you,.. having no way to verify, chooses to believe the lie?
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December 10, 2010, 11:05:26 PM »
Change your definition of the word friend.
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December 11, 2010, 02:50:32 AM »
lol you're right.
I always fool myself once I consider someone a friend, I stretch the definition of friend to include whatever. It's easier for me to deal with people I never trusted,.. at least then I don't delude myself about what they do.
Should I cut this non-friend person out of my life or let them hang around as long as they like so I can know they are well and not worry about them? Besides being untrustworthy and slightly malicious, they aren't really harmful, and I expect my friendship means something to them, I'd suffer some pain knowing I caused them sadness.
What if this is just a temporary thing? Even I'm just a flimsy thing that changes to fit conditions, and since qualities come and go they can't be called "me". Tomorrow this person might recognize they were fooled by a liar.
P.S. I hate differentiating between friends and enemies, I'd rather treat everyone the same, once a relationship forms everything seems polluted, I have to think what will please this person or shoo away this person.
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